A painful note drafted for her... (24 Nov 2020)

Dear, I have decided to take a break from our relationship. Recently, especially this year, we are not communicating anymore. You are always busy with your classes, family issue and work. I am not longer involving and no longer needed. I am feeling distanced and disconnected. We are communicating minimally by text and meet up merely 2 hours per week. It is no longer enough to stay in healthy relationship. I had feedback repeatedly on this. I understand that this is a tough period for you. But I am no longer happy, we used to do things together and now we no longer do so. I wrote this with great difficulty and I have tried to get your response and attention, but sadly I do not see changes. I no longer know details of your life, I do not know your class schedule, your baking business plan, etc. we no longer go for walk together, watch video/movie together, play games, visit performances, exercise, or shopping together. Covid 19 may be a factor, but not entirely. I am drained waiting for your availability and impromptu dinner. I tried to enjoy every little moment with you but it is never enough. I am sorry but I have to take a break.

I know this period is tough for you, with the family drama, etc. But I do not understand my priority is losing to baking classes. You are willing to spend weekend at friend’s house experimenting baking but not spending time with me. You have menopause and not feeling well, but it has been too long. Menopause cannot be use as an excuse of not spending time together and I will care for you. I have waited you for years, giving you time to get use to the symptoms, but the more I give way the more I am losing you. Do you know that when I say "I love you" to you, your respond is mostly half hearted? May be you did not feel it, but I guess you do know that you did not initiate that 3 words for a very long time already. While your family rejected me and my mom now telling me she is sad seeing I am treated in this way. We are no longer having blessings from our families now.

I am getting far too many signals that you have changed, became complacent that I will always be there, waiting for your calls and have dinner upon your request. Sorry to say, not really, I do have feelings, and so I have repeatedly trying to get your attention that I am not happy. But sadly things are still the same. I have given enough benefits of doubt to you, requesting for improvement and waiting for it to happen, and I have reached my threshold. I appreciated your companionship for 10 years and 5 months, it is a long time we had together, let us be friends again while you sort out your problems and your feelings, and not having any obligation to me. I believe this will help both you and me. We need this break, this cool down period.